Can You Relate

Since I've been fortunate enough to find, reunite and visit my first family twice I start to realize many things about me, my mum and dad, my first family and Korea. First of all adoption messes things up for everyone involved weither they like it or not.

I'm not trying to blame anyone, it's a fact.

I feel a closer connection, eagerness or interest or whatever you want to call it towards my birth siblings (in comparison to my first parents.) Why is that ?

It's very simple and quite logical, my first parents never raised me so; both me and them lost something. My bond to my Swedish parents are stronger than the bond I have to my first parents.

But my siblings they may not feel the same because although I come with best of intentions to them I'm the younger sister, someone who they never saw or got to know naturally by being raised in the same household. I do think they are proud to have a relative living far away but to them I'm nothing but a stranger that they slowly get to know. I know I'm more eager to get to know them than what I assume that they must be simply because of two or maybe three things. We have different lives and ways of living, secondly I assume they have enough with each other. Lastly I have to accept that what I hope I'd achive one day might never become a realization. I might come close but it will probably never become what I imagined or dream of.

As for my first parents I assume they feel a stronger bond towards me than what I do feel I have for them. Both of my parents knew about me before my arrival (birth) and although I'm not a parent I guess it's only natural that parents always feel a need or desire to stay close or in contact with their children because they are their flesh and blood. (Of course there may be many cases where this might not be true I'm aware of it but I don't intend to digg any deeper into that aspect).

To me; unfortunately my birth parents do feel like strangers just like I imagine that my siblings must feel for me. That's a given fact and maybe I have to realize those things before I completely can move forward in my reunion saga and more to the point with my life.

To summerize I know I'm forunate to have found my first family and I'm ever so grateful for everything that we shared so far. Excluding all the drama, tears, misunderstandings and cultural clashes because of language barriers and different cultural values.

That's why I say that adoption messes things up, you know that tale about the boy who loved a girl who loved a boy who loved a girl it's sort of how to best describ the mess that adoption creates for the first family, the adoptee and adoptive parents.

Maybe you now can understand why I personally never would choose to adopt a child myself, and it has nothing to do with my ability love someone else's child. I know I would eventually become attached to that person. That said, I realize that there are people that are willing, able and capable to become parents through adoption. And I'm not trying to point fingers, play the blame game, accuse or name call anyone who are an adoptive parent or in the process of adopting.

It's not a question of love or making a choice between one of the two. My heart is big and I do love each of them dearly, yet I'm avare of the difference butween us and our lives. But I will always have a special place in my heart that are saved for my first family.

All I ask for if anyone is listening is that adoptive parents try to take these things into consideration and mentally prepare themselves for what might be coming their way if they decide to choose adoption. 


But no adoption is the same, because you deal with people not objects and people have feelings objects don't.

© Taste of Kimchi, Elle

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I begun writing letters and sending pictures back and forth for some years, then everything suddenly stopped and it took a while for me to re-establish contact with my birth family. By then 10 years had almost passed and I had only been back in their lives for a couple of months when dad suggested that I'd ask if my birth family would like to meet me in person. I was lucky, they said yes and so I started planning my first reunion and first trip to Korea simultaneously.

My reunion trip coincided with the Summer Olympics of 2010 and I was fortunate enough to witness the Korean soccer team meet other teams... They didn't win their last game, but that really didn't matter the experience was something else. I spent a couple of days with my older siblings and parts of the family before the entire family went on an outing to the countryside and we all wore matching T-shirts that weekened. We visited a Korean carnival and I went on the amusement rides despite the lack of safety nets. That was almost two years ago, in december of 2010 I begun planning for a second trip to Korea. 

This time without my mum and dad, I thought it would be easier to establish a lasting and deeper connection with my first family without them but now I wouldn't have my safety net. I booked the tickets in december and I would leave for Korea around the beginning of July and I had initially planned to just stay a month, but I extended my trip last minute. And I can honestly say that I felt at home there, my soul became calm like I had found my inner peace.Now I still feel I'd like to move from Sweden back to Korea, to the land that ignored me... But when you think about it , really think about it it does make sense.

 I have finally found a piece of myself and my past and I am terrified I one day will lose conntact with them. Also 25 years have been stolen from us all, time neither of us can get back so now that I finally have them all back in my life I strive for and wants to pursue a new life in Korea with them more actively involved. Luckily for me my mum and dad in Sweden does support me, and they understand why I feel the way I do. It's not an insult to my Swedish parents, they are still very much a part of my life but I feel like this is my only shoot to try to make things right.

 Besides being adopted living in the Western World as a young Asian adoptee, especially in Sweden means you are subject to racisim and prejudices. The only place were I didn't experience that was in Korea the same place that once casted me aside.I am ready for deeper commitment to my first family, I could never ask them to come and visit me for obvious reasons. It makes more sense for me to come to them, instead of the opposite. Although I am dreeding what they'll say and how they'll react I feel like it's the next natural step in my personal reunion saga. My friends are starting to make their own families moving in with their partners and beginning to have children. But not me, either I am not ready to settle down or the urge to move to Korea is greater then anything else.

© Taste of Kimchi, Elle

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On my first reunion my meeting with Umma was more then a little emotional, it was extremly emotional.. to tell you the truth. My Korean mother was finally able to meet her little babygirl, only thing is that since 24 years had past. But at that meeting it really at is if I was more of a child then an adult.

My next trip wasn't quite like that, my parents asked a lot about my scars on my arms, like they did the first time the year before. It isn't scars from self inflicted pain or supposed abuse from parents. Maybe it's a sort of self inflicted pain since I baldy decided on the cat with most energy. And yes, he bites and scratches me. Both umma, aand my unnis said that I shouldn't keep a cat like that and instead get a dog because they're nicer. It's not that easy for me to that, since i have special bond with my cat who literarily saved my life in theory.

Anyways, enough about that what I wanted to talk about was my experiences from my first and second reunion. At the second reunion my parents and my sisters treated me more like an adult even though they havn't known me for as long as I have lived... But still I'm not a little child anymore, but in fact a young woman. If I return to Korea to spend time with my first family I do so as an adult and not as the infant baby who years ago left on a plane... with an escort... (due to pre Olympics of 1988)...

© Taste of Kimchi, Elle

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I guess noboy would think twice about my future move to Korea, but you see I'm not just a European or Swedish gal. No fact, is I'm an adoptee from Korea... Why on earth would someone like even consider moving back to country that abadoned and basically disowned me, right ? I propaply could give a million of different answer to that one, but I suppose my heritage is stronger then my assimilation into the Swedish culture then anything else. And yes, I do think in numbers my first family outnumbers my Swedish family by far! That's nothing but the cold hard truth, and also you're accepted when you're a small child until 10 or so as I recall it one , especially an Asian adopted girl reaches puberty it's not longer clear for society that you're an adoptee, you could be just one of those other Asian girls...

And generally an unformed or uneducated Swede naturally seems to assume that most Asian ladies in Sweden are Thai women and well, you all know what that means... Nowadays, Sweden have more immigrants from outside Europe to and as in most parts of Europe the immigration laws have been scrutinized and then made stricter.

They say Korea is a homogen society, which used to be true but it's getting more common for Koreans to marry outiside their own ethnicity, to study abroad, learn English and much more. Even if I was prepared for the culture shock it felt way better to walk around at night in Seoul compared to a night out in Sweden. Could be because Korea always will be my birth country, or it could be that Korea is way safer than Sweden. Or maybe it has something to do with my first family, but even so I don't think society never intended for or was prepared for adoptees wanting to return to a country that previously disowned them.

© Taste of Kimchi, Elle

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© Taste of Kimchi, Elle

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한녕하세요.
서는
한극사람도 스웨덴 사람어요.
 일곱명 사매들세요.
두명 남동생있어요.
여섯명 언니가들이세요..
스물다섯년있어요.
하고생이 없어요.
네명 보님들 있어요.
두명아버지아 도 두병 어머님아 이세요.
한마리 고영이있어요.

and of course many other Korean words that can be used to make up sentences... But I still don't know enough Korean words as I would like to... 한극어않일아어 없어요.

©Taste of Kimchi, Elle

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It Makes Sense

Years ago I was relinquished for inter country adoption, I was only two days old. At the most;  not soon after, a couple in Sweden recieved information about a baby girl, that girl was me... they were asked if they would accept to become adoptive parents to that child. Naturally they agreed and it hadn't even gone two months until they recieved news about my arrival...

It was summer time and my prospective parents were about to leave on a camping trip, because it was their summer holidays... Instead they didn't go on a camping trip as planned they had to rush and buy all necessary things to prepare for my arrival.

My new parents raised me as if I was there own, I had nothing to complain about I know I was even spoiled especially as a young child... Maybe I still am at times... But even so my childhood was not easy, my teens was even worse . I never doubted for a second that my mum and dad loved me unconditionally, instead I doubted why my biological parents gave me up so easily.

I begun to think and talk about my first family when I was twelve and at mere 15 I decided it was time for me to try to relocate my birth parents and my older siblings, society however didn't understand but it didn't matter because my mum and dad supported me. At times they even seemed more anxious than I... I did recieve news that my mother and father still were alive and not only that they had been blessed with the longed for son. That news hurt quite a lot too be honest, this created an unexplained anger that I think I better can understand now...

I think it makes sense, 네, 아니요 ? I'm not saying that I'm angry at my Korean parents and not even my brother. Maybe I'm angry at the situation, not at any particular person...

More to come soon...


© Taste of Kimchi, Elle

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It's not impossible it's what I want and I'll accomplish that because it's my purpose of life. I don't want anything as much and there's nothing that is as important to me. I might not have known my Korean family all my life but I knew about them since I was very very young. And they have always held a special place inside my heart.

I know that a move abroad means making sacrifices but if it means I'll be known as a pabo then so be it it's a price I have to pay in order to get what I want out of life. I guess it comes down to priorities if anything and moving to Korea is undoubtfully on the first place although it's a longterm goal but it doesn't matter.

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Sadly it seems that sometimes don't mix, I learned it the hard way... Most of my friends since my teens and young adulthood have not been ethnic Swedes but mostly immigrants, exchange students and adoptees. It's not that I have something against Swedes honestly I don't. Why it's like I can't really say.

Recently though, as I was preparing for my first reunion trip, some of friendships begun to develop into something that was less like friendship if anything and it was out my control. You, see I used to share the rejection from adoption as well as the challenge of not knowing, not knowing anything about my roots my birth or my first parents. But that suddenly changed as I begun planning my first reunion back, I begun to talk about my first family and the fears connected to it. People suddenly turned their back on me, stopped returning my phone calls and even stopped greeting me whenver they saw me. To me that is not what a friendship is all about, turning your back on someone just because you feel it's uncomfortable or whatever is not something you do. Not even you consider yourself a really close friend.

This post is about a recent friendship that I found during my University studies and who recently ended because it was heading in the wrong direction. And maybe it's a mistake made from both of our parts...

 Sadly to say, I don't miss those friendships anymore it's true, the friendships that I chose to leave behind for different reasons. Not the new ones I'm still working on... I guess I probably offended some of my readers. Sorry...

I can't just ignore what big life change my reunion meant for me, and it's not likely that I will stop thinking, wondering or talking about them. I love them, each and every one they're my family. Don't ask me to sacrifice that part of my life, just keep a friendship. That's not fare...

Either accept that my priorities and goals have changed or rather move on to something new. If people can't accept me for who I am then what's the point of sticking around, trying to make an effort to create a lasting band...

And as we all know there are many different dimensions to a friendship, it's not about just one person calling the shots. Friends don't have to share something in common, what it takes is respect, acceptance, loyality and trust and also occational pieces of humble pie...  Take me for example I either have to consume an incredible amount of humble pie or learn how to manage my frankness of always syaing what's on my mind regardless of situation or the people I'm around... It's both a blessing and a curse I suppose.

© Taste of Kimchi, Elle

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I have just been aquainted with Korea the Land of The Morning Calm and I anticipate a lifelong lovestory and passion. As of right now the plan is to save enough money so that I one day could stay in Korea for 3 consecutive months and then apply for the F4 Visa.

After that I don't know what I would do, I might apply for a dual Korean citizenship after that. But things can change. Yet my love for my first family and the love I feel for my birth country is eternal and unthreathened by nothing. I still havn't abandoned that dream and why should I ? It's something I've always felt like I wanted do as soon as I got knowledge of the special conditions for Korean adoptees which would make it possible for people just like myself to regain our citizenship. I know it's a pretty big dream but I don't care it's important to have goals and aspirations in life. But I have to confess that I'm a little worried about how my first family would react once I told them if and when I decided to realize my plans...

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The first reunion which took place in 2010 was everything that I ever imagined, think of what you've seen on TV... It was almost exactly like that, the anticipation, anexity and nervousness was something I never felt before, I don't think I ever will experience such a feeling ever again. That time I went with my mama and papa but as usually happens when I'm around my parents I ended up taking the backseat allowing or forcing my mum and dad to take control of things. It also felt like I would betray them by siding with my parents and my older siblings.  I wanted to eat the cake while having it too, if you get my drift.

That's why it was not only easy but neccessary to return to Korea on my own, because I'm convinced that if I hadn't or choosen to go with someone else the experience would look very different... And maybe I still would have felt empty, sad and lost without a purpose or goal. Now I'm not only happy but also know what I want in life. I will not apologize for my dream, I will not give up, compromise or replace my dream not until I've tried it... If don't decide to try it out I might never know and I would most likely regret that I didn't make a decision to try living there. Maybe it will turn out not to be my dream or goal in life, but that's allright because then I would at least know and I wouldn't have to wonder about what could have been...

Don't tell my it's impossible, unreachable, can't be done because who are you tell me how to live my life !? 

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I don't know what's common to do when you're suddenly in active reunion.. Do you send pictures, letters or gifts to your relatives, parents or siblings... And what about visits then... I mean once you've found them there must be some change in how you do things... Mustn't it...

Of course it's not easy especially not if you're forced to rely on a second language and translator or social worker... For three years or so now I have sent birthday cards and occassional gifts to my siblings and parents, I don't mind doing it because it makes me happy because I know it makes my family happy to get that proof of recognition, because it's what it is.

This of course means that I must keep track on all the dates and ages of my Korean family members and it's many birthday cards to send. But don't get me wrong I love sending them, but it's a little annoying that I usually don't get to know if the gifts or letters I've sent ever reaches it's destination... It's not costumary to that in Korea, you don't even open gifts in front of somebody or even mention them.

Also once in a while my siblings ask me if I have a boyfriend or if I'm still single.. Well I'm still single and happy, living my life. It couldn't be better to tell you the truth. I guess my Korean parents might have asked me to get married if it weren't for the fact that I dont' even have a boyfriend and three of my older sisters are still unmarried if not single. If they all were married they may have sounded differently... I don't want to settle for the first guy that comes along unless I really care about that person... Maybe that's why I don't date, you can still be young and having fun living your life without feeling the pressure from society, friends and family...

Luckily for me my family as well as my Korean family all seem to really want the best for me, I know they would be the first ones to congratulate me once or if I ever marry... Should I ever marry the guy needs to treat me nicely and be kind to me or else... I think maybe they have realized things I still struggle with, the thing about being adopted and wanting to reconnnect with your birthculture only to realize that you don't share the same mentality. So maybe I'm naive.

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I really want to move back to Korea, the country of my birth in order to give my first family a real chance to get to know me and to form a lasting and deeper bond. But that might not be without complications since Korea is a country with group identity while I was raised in Sweden under individual principles.

Maybe they'll ask me to change my way of dressing, what to eat and et.c maybe even about who I should marry. But to be honest marriage isn't on the agenda just yet not even in my head. And I seriously don't think they'd dare to ask me to just marry someone just for the sake of marriage. Then again they are Korean afterall and if and when I've decided on my next move they'll probably like me to become more like them in order to fit in more than anything... But nowadays some Koreans do marry someone outside Korea, some Korean men are forced to marry Asian women (not Koreans). While some Korean women decide to find themselves a Western man... So Korea is changing too...

How far would you be willing to go in order to make your birth family proud ? How far should adoptees go in order to get accepted by their first families ? What's to far and where should you draw the line? Are Korean adoptees supposed to study Korean (if they want to get to know their birth family) and do they have to erase their childhood and memories once reunited ? Are you supposed to just forget what's been ?

Would you settle for someone who says that like you when you know that they don't and that you deserve better?

1. I want to live in South Korea 
2. I wish I could speak Korean fluently
3. I hope to move to South Korea in a few years time
4. I will not go on a date just because someone wants to date me
5. I don't need a man to take care of myself 
6. I don't want a man just because you're supposed to be like everybody else
7. I am trying to get a degree from my University studies
8. I am trying to find fulltime employment
9. If I'd like to settle down I know for a fact I'd rather be childless then to adopt myself
10. I'm not sure if I ever would like to get married

Maybe I'll think differently about some things in a few years time, but I know that some opinions will not change...

© Taste of Kimchi, Elle

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Becoming a parent is huge life altering thing, and becoming a parent by adoption makess it even more complicated because the child you are supposed to parent has a past, already has one set of parents.

When mum's cooworkers learned that I had gone back to Korea and that I would be staying with my birth parents they showed much concern and even asked questions like aren't you afraid you'd be replaced now? are you still her mum? 


But the great thing with my mum is that she never once was worried that I'd be replacing her and thereby closing the door on a great life filled with security, happiness and love. It's impossible to replace the woman that raised you , that loves you unconditionally and that always have supported you with a woman who you don't really know, that hasn't seen you for most of your life and that can't speak the same language.

I do of course feel privileged, honured and most of humble that life has been able to reunite me with my other family, my first family. However I do still feel a strong connection to Korea and I still haven't ruled out the possibility of living there for real in the future, as a Korean citizen.

My first meeting with my first mother was just like what you've read of and seen on TV, she cried a lot (I think it was tears of despair and happiness)she started shouting and hitting my back every time she yelled. I her long lost daughter had finally returned to her years later, not as an infant but as a young women. During that same visit one of my sisters carefully explained that our mother wanted me to sleep next to her on her arm just as a small child would be doing. I was very happy to get that request but the thought of me sleeping next to my mother like that I couldn't fulfill.

My Korean mother has now seen me twice, and I know she wants nothing else than to see me happy but sometimes I wonder if she really loves me for me not just because I happen to be child that she has given birth to. And in really weak moments I start to think that everything is a drean; I will soon wake up and then be given the sad message that family I've grown to love and care for really isn't mine because I accidentally was switched at birth...

Could be because this whole experience still feels totally surreal, maybe it always will feel this... But now I know that it's allright for me to love the woman who raised me while I still love the woman that basically has given me life. And next time I'll come to Korea will be for the Korean New Year, Lunar New Year, the Independence Day , Constitution Day, Liberation Day, War Memorial Day, National Foundation Day or Hangul Day....

If I would have the resources and possility to choose I would choose Lunar New Year  설날 no doubt, next after that would be Independence Day and although I still was in Korea during the Armed Forces Day 국군 and the Hangul Day 한글날. I would still like to revisit Korea during the Hangul Day especially, as I would like to come there for 석가탄신일 Buddha's Birthday; 현충일Memorial Day, 세헌설 Constitution Day; 개천설  National Foundation Day and 1설 the Independence Day .

The only holidays that aren't as interesting to me at the moment are; 신청New Year's Eve probably because I don't make such a big fuss about it normally. 어린이날 Children's Day just because I don't have any children of my own although the idea and thought behind it sounds pretty interesting. 기독탄신일 which would be  Christmas Eve and that is only because I don't celebrate Christmas on Christmas Day but on Christmas Eve. Also I fear I only would try to spoil my sister's children even more and try to buy nice Christmas gift to my siblings and parents (that would be an offence)... Long story, maybe I've already explained if not I'll do it soon...

 I think I would only plan a shorter vacation trip maybe one week or 2 at the most. The ticker at the top is only counting down to one I hopefully would be able to stay in Korea for 3 months...

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I have accomplished many things that I thought that I never might be able to fulfill. My biggest wish ever has been fulfilled and I'm so tremendously grateful for my Korean family, the post adoption agency, fellow Koreans as well as fellow Korean adoptees. I my still lack some areas of fulfillment in my life, but things are looking far better now. Honestly.

It's like I recently discovered that the rainbow has gold in its end hidden away and it's up to me to find it. My mind and soul are finally at ease. At least. Without scaring anybody unintentionally I can say that if I where to die tomorrow I wouldn't regret it. But you see I have a debt to continue paying of  Umma and Appa that probably will take a lifetime to fulfill...

But it's true the rainbow has gold and comes with happiness and unconditional love. Or at least I like to think that it has.

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As the Korean conflict still seems likely to continue on in the year of the dragon 2012 the (South) Korean army is letting their soldiers train combat training in extreme weather conditions. 20 minus Celcius degrees as well as snow and swimming in freezing water. This is just prepare a special task force of what is likely to happen if the war/conflict intensifies...

Meanwhile North Koreans that didn't obey orders when the deceased leader was buried has been punished with 6 months stay in a worker camp. But there's nothing that says this actually is true... could be , and it just as well might not be.

Oh, yeah and with new leader North Korea is getting online, the regime are now apparently active on Facebook and twitter and has even created an online newspaper... Hm.

And yes, maybe not so interesting but still, the honeymoon couple stuck on the Italian ferry while on a cruise was a South Korean newlywed couple. They said they'd like a new honeymoon but not another cruise.

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The search has ended now, I've found what I've searched for for many many years now. Even though things didn't turn out the way I thought it would I'm ever so grateful that I found my Korean family and that they seemed to embrace me wholeheartedly and welcome me into the family. However I may have thought that I would found something else, that it would feel if not easier differently than what it did initially.

But I no longer feel lonely not in the same way and I'm tremendously proud of each and every one and I love them just as much as I love my later family. Now when the search has ended, I have found my inner peace the dancing can begin instead. And I guess we've already danced for a couple of months now, and I'll keep dancing from now on maybe for the rest of my life.

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It's a bit funny or maybe not funny, strange more than anything yet understandable.... that I seem to have a deeper relationship with my remaining onnis in Korean than what I have with  the sister that I literarily could visit the next day since she lives in Europe with her European husband and children. I have nieces that are half Koreans.

As far as I know nobody from my Korean family has never been unfair to my European brother-in-law and my siblings and parents love all the children in our big family. My family are poor (by Western standards) and the hierarchy placed our sister's European brother-in-law high up on the scale. I can't imagine what a big responsibility that must be, but to willingly agree to take on such a responsability there has to something more than just responsability. I guess that's wahat's called love.

Life is never easy, and I assume more than know that being an interracial couple coming from different cultures that have different customs and traditions most be challenging. And then there's the language barrier but love is like the ultimate prize right ? I wish I also would be able to find that kind of love, but love can come in many different shapes but I guess it would help I were more romantic but I'm not.

내가 어머니가 사강.

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I confess I used to feel jelaous at my younger brother (the one closest to me in age) but I never hated him. In the beginning I was jelaous of the fact that he was able to stay with our birth family, while I wasn't because I basically was a daughter and not the longed for son. I know that's the truth, but it wasn't my birth parents decision...

These days I feel pity for him because he is the one that has a huge responsability resting on his shoulders and the future and wellbeing of my birth family lies in his hands... How can I ever be jelaous that !? I guess I'll always struggle with some feelings of jelaousy because the rest of birth siblings were all able to stay and be raised by our birth parents. They all know each other I don't know them.

Me and this brother each share the same faith, I think I was born so that he could be born...I was abandoned to make place for him. I don't resent my brother in any way, we are each a part of the same faith but from different perspectives....

 I love them despite of everything and maybe this makes me a bad person... but then again what would you expect... I easily could have become a feminist but I don't like to call myself one even though I may share some feminism opinions. Why is it so that you're expected to marry once you've found true love....

Yet I feel a strange urge and determination to leave Sweden and move to Korea very soon, as soon as I finished everything I need to finish in Sweden. My adventure is not to leave an ordinary life as an average Joe with 2,2 children, husband, Volvo, mansion and summer house. Oh no, so don't ask me to make you any promises because I don't intend to make my future life in Sweden. Korea was my pre life and past, Sweden is only the present Korea will become my future because I want to be. Simple as that.

This îs my last entry for 2011, see you soon in 2012. ^^

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What kind of job oppertunities are awailable for KADs if they aspire to move back to Korea as adults ? Is it even possible I wonder ... What if you'd like to earn a living somehow but doesn't like teaching for some reason what then ?

Maybe someone knows or has an answer ? And please don't tell me that it can't be done because I know it can happen, I'm not the first one to consider it.

© Taste of Kimchi, Elle

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