Wednesday, 11 February 2015

Slipping Through My Fingers

I know what I want and how to get it. I cannot rest and settle down until my soul find peace and my heart discovered happiness that lies within. To me life is so extremely short-that we only have one chance to reach our dreams and full potential. I will not let this just slip through my fingers because I may only get one shot.

To me my lifedream is my number one priority-I will sacrifice a stable future and even love to reach my dream.

For 15 years I was separated and detached from them, 15 years ago I found them and got to know them. But no matter what I lost 15 years, years that I never will get back. I have been in reunion with my birth family for half my life. Which is not easy I should add, I am the second youngest child and youngest daughter out of eight.

Sunday, 11 January 2015

Let It Be

Let Me Be
The Me
I Was
Meant to Be
The Person That
I Once
Was Supposed
To Be

Is it not ironic that I have a yearning and a life long dream to resettle in Korea, try my wings and search for happiness and luck -while one of my sisters did exactly the opposite. She did not marry a Korean man, nor did she settled in Korea she built a future overseas.

The culture that I long to know better and love tremendously she choose to reject and cast aside.  For reasons I am not sure off she decided to marry a foreign man. She knows the culture that we both are proucts of she knows what she dislikes about. Whereas I cannot reject or dislike anything Korean it is a part of me. If I reject it, I ignore a part of me.

I cannot change what happened or undo my adoption . I cannot disolve my adoption (it's supposedly not possible). Whould I even want to..? One part of me wants to do it, and another part doesnt' think its worth it. That would cause more pain for one or both of my families plus it was almost 29 years ago I was relinguished for adoption.

Plus I don't even know for sure if my birth ceritificate is real (social study).

Saturday, 20 December 2014

Aura

My aura and soul was born through my mother's tears and pain. Her soul gave birth to me a daughter that she never could call hers. Because of this my mother's aura must be pure. White as snow and innocent. I do not blame her in any way, I can hold nothing against her. She gave me life, I am a part of her.

I am searching for the thing I lost, my social heritage that I lost because I was adopted... My biological heritage does no longer match my social heritage. That is my biggest sorrow but it is not something that I can regret because I had nothing to do with it. I was just born by a mother that never was to be my mum.

Who is to blame for my soul's trauma... Because it is traumatic for a newborn infant or animal to be separated from it's mother to soon after birth.... That's why experts does not recommend you to buya kitten that's younger than 12 weeks or 8 weeks for a puppy. Removing it too soon from it's mother will most likely disturb the animals natural development not to mention the anti bodies it will lack and lose because of not being able to feed from it's mother.

Why are not children treated with the same respect?

Saturday, 15 November 2014

Born to Die

천국에서도 당신은 나의어머니입니다.

어머니, 천국에서도 나를 알아봐 주세요.


다음 생에도어머니는제되어주시겠어요 ?

Wednesday, 29 October 2014

선생님 My Brother

Have I told you about my brother... I can't recall that I have. My brother 남동생 or 오빠, hierarcial and there are two different terms for brother, which depends on the gender females calls older brother one thing and another if they're younger brothers. Same goes for brothers- older brothers have one name and younger brothers another. The same word used by a younger sister for her older brother has also been used as term of enderment between couples- the girlfriend calls her boyfriend this. Sometimes a woman may use this for her older male friends as well.

Exactly what I call my brother, that is up for you to determine or guess. I can tell you that my brother has been studying to become a teacher 선생님 and the subject he'll be teaching is history 역사. At first he had his heart set on becoming a doctor, for some reason his grades weren't high enough so instead he decided to pursue a teaching carrier. Next after a carrier in medicine the teaching profession in Korea still carries a lot of status. 


Which isn't the same in Sweden or Europe where I'm from. Fact is that a teacher in Sweden is among the lowest valued profession one could choose. Teachers and doctors are expected to a future of low incomes, long hours of work regular or constant overtime. Despite the fact that both of them are needed professions for society to function the salary doesn't reflect this.

I also believe that my birth parents wanted my brother to pursue a carrier in medicine because it has high status and a very nice salary. A doctor has the highest status overall. But if all Korean students entered into medicine society would not function since other professions would size to exist.

I am proud of my brother for wanting to become a teacher, I want him to be happy. I love my brother, just as I do love my sisters and my father and mother.

Thursday, 11 September 2014

Embrace Life

Life's not a coincidence, embrace your life. Really embrace it, since you are here on earth. You were meant to be. Meant to be alive. Remember that life's no accident everything happens for a reason. You are a winner , winner of life. Celebrate it, cheerish it enjoy your life.

 Happiness starts from within if you're not happy with yourself you will never be happy with someone else. You can't love anyone else if you don't learn to love, respect, honor and accept yourself. It may not be easy and easier said then done... But if there's life there's always hope.

Initally this post was written in the light of the Sewol tragedy in Korea, yet almost two months ago another disaster struck the international community the crash of MH17 months after Malyasia's MH370 disappeared... I will not mention the politics behind the MH17 crash. This is not the proper place to do so and it also feels to soon to do so....




Saturday, 16 August 2014

Lost Lives

The sudden ferry accident outside Jindo where 80 % of the passengers were High School students from Anam , Hanwon High School is indeed a tragic loss. I do believe it could have been prevented.. I honestly do.

Korea is a very competitive society were the collective good comes before individual needs. This means the Korean mentality basically says that showing emotion in public is not socially accepteed.
"Only small children cries" instead of talking openbly about their feelings, emotions and reactions to things they don't mention it at all.

With more over 200 missing or dead teenagers there is a fear that the suicide rate will increase, because it is a parents worst nightmare to survive while they loss their children instead.

The 22year old female part time worker who refused to leave and save herself, who tried to rescue as many as she could, the engaged 20s couple who tried to look for more or the middleaged teacher who wanted to try to rescue and save his students.There were many brave teenagers onboard the Sewol ferry, the Choi boy who made the 911call, the part time worker, the engaged couple, or the boy who gave away his lifejacket to a friend and the teenage couple who died tied together... And the brave civilians that stepped in and helped to rescue some, some who even lost their own lives...

Will this nightmare mean that Korea has to change their view on healthcare ? Nobody did approch the assigned Health Care workers at the Jindo gymnasium. Many parents have mentioned not wanting to live...

If it would have been a ferry with 80% adult passengers instead of High School students would the captain have acted differently would the expected death toll not have been as high.. !? Who knows.
I can't imagine how this feels, but I feel the collective grief. Experts talk about a collective depression yet depression isn't a common word in the Korean vocabulary. Depression 불경기 (bulyeongki) while suicide is 자살 jasal (chasal) and the incident has already claimed it's first victim by suicide, the vice principal of the Anwon High School in Anam.

(I will not write about the president or crew members of the Sewol ferry -this is not the time. I will find another place to write about the crew and suspected wrongdoing and criminal act..)

Try to not feel guilty for having survived, celebrate it even if it's hard.

To those who survived
죄책감을하지 말아주세요...
Il Divo, 
꽃, 꽃이 필까 예 예 그들은 그들은 것입니다 윌 
당신이 여기 아직 태어나의 경우가 있습니다. 
그들은 꽃을하겠다는 그들은 것 및 그 때까지 다시 개화 
거기에는없는 슬픔은 없습니다 및 이유 애도 남아

Tuesday, 15 July 2014

R.I.P Angel KADs


My dear sweet angels and innocent souls. How much my heart yerns for you all, my heart is heavy for you all. You were all taken way to soon, I can't help but to think of your birthmothers.... Do they know, that you're no longer living- that your life was ended by the one person that was supposed to keep you safe ? 

  • 1957, Wendy Kay Ott, 22 months old
  • 1972, Kim Marie Firth, 2
  • 1976, Danielle Kristine Neil, 13 months
  • 1978, Lew Jones, 21
  • 1992, Kayla Erlandson, 2
  • 1994, Holly 15 & Nicole 14
  • 2007, Chaeli Kyrie , 13 months
  • 2008, Ethan 10, Seth 9, Mira 5 and Eleanor 3
  • 2013, Hyunsu 3
제발 용서해 주세요. 우리는 당신의 아이를 보호해야.
 

Tuesday, 10 June 2014

평화

평화, pyeonghwa means peace which is something I really do believe in. I believe in equality and world peace. But it's difficult trying to strive and achieve world peace if you're not in harmony and peace with yourself.


사랑합니다 saranghabnida, means love and I do respect and feel love towards most, if not all humans. I am a humanbeing with feelings, I do love my family, relatives and friends.  

While North Korea, still is an autocracy still ruled by a direct decendant of Kim Il Sung, namely his grandson Kim Jung Un. While the population in North Korea are deprived of most things we usually tend to take for granted. The majority is extremely poor and starving. Yet many have begun to oppose and ignore many of the regulations, laws and restrictions that doesn't carry a serious punishment. Some say that North Korea already is a plutocracy or autocracy.

The older generation; those who experienced the Korean War and the first decades after seems to be more positive towards a future unification of the both Koreas. While the younger generation seems to be very sceptical towards a joint Korea, since they fear that South Korea's economy will suffer once North Korea fall. When that happens it is likely-at least if you ask me that, North Korea and possibly South Korea to will change from an autocracy to a plutocracy. Once North Korea falls, which it will someday sooner than later.

Those North Koreans who are fotunate to still have directly related family in the South might become part of the small plutocracy group.
With that its very likely that South will witness a flood of refugees fleeing trying to escape a faith and poor future in North.

I believe it will affect South Korea and that the period of communism and democracy will be over. Then North Korea most likely will face a period of interegnum where it might be ruled under martial law, or possibly a mandate from UN or South Korea. Then it's possible I'd say that there will be a temporary coalition government with leaders from the South , UN and North Korea might also be a suzerainty at one point where South Korea or UN would have political influence over them. In the future , many years decades from now I believe that North and South Korea will have to form a joint government with power-sharing between them.

The likelihood of a unified Korea might never become a realization instead it is more likely that North Korea one day will become a fre state with a freely elected president and becoming a republic. We can only speculate how that will affect the unfortunate families that were forced to separate in 1953 as a result of the Korean War.

According to reports  as many as 128000 people are registered as coming from North Korean families in South Korea. Some 44 percent out of those is said to have passed away while more than 80 percent out of the living survivors is said to be over 70 years old. The organized family reunions begun in 2010, last years promised reunions were cancelled only the day before.

The very first family reunion was actually held as early as 1985 and so far 18 family reunions have been held... Back then family members were schuffled between Seoul and Peyongyang promting North Korea to only allow future reunions within Peyongyang.

Maybe the future unified Korea will be a technocracy or a theocracy, who knows ? What if the future for Korea means two independent countries and not a unification? Please bear in mind that I'm no expert in area at all.not really..No

Since the separation of Korea in 1953 South Korea has managed to become a leading world nation, with strong economy, high level of industralization and a major exporter of technology. Would South Korea willingly accept to lose their economic status and international reputation and become 21st century's Germany?

This seems very unlikely to happen, and South Korea wouldn't willingly accept it- of that I am certain.

It could be wrong of me but I identify with them, these unfortunate families that were separated by the war. Not able to communicate with their loved ones , not informed about their relatives whereabouts, major life events or current health status.

Being an adoptee means I naturally and obviously unfortunately are left out of any information. That daily contact with my relatives, parents and siblings- that I never recieves... Not about those trivial eveyday things. I kow I am one of the more fortunate enough to actually have had the possibility to meet my 어머니and 아버지as well as 언니을 and 남동생.


Even if we, reunited I've realized that it was near to impossible to reclaim my role in my  biological family. I was an infant when I left and I returned years later, I was the youngest at the time. I'm no longer the youngest I was raised in a different society, a society who appears to be the opposite of were I once was born. I'm no longer considered a family member which I learned from experience. Should I want to reconnect with them it seems another role and function has been assigned to me one that I am having trouble to accept.

Unlike the separated families I have a choice to either accept my faith or to walk away. Whereas they don't have that option I am very aware of that.