Adoption of any child be it infant or toddler is very convinent in a way especially for busy carrier centered women and women in show business like the fashion industry and Hollywood. For models and actresses they usually risk lossing income and reputation as well as popularity if they decide to start a family the ordinary way, but if they decide to skip the pregnancy thing they seem able to enjoy both sides of the world.
The joy of motherhood and a stable income. To choose adoption just because of its conveniance is in my eyes pure selfishness. I mean women that delibrately chooses adoption even though they could concive naturally that to me seems to be nothing else than selfishness and lazyness.
In that comparision adoption seems more convinent but unless you're not filthy rich or Madonna you are likely to be forced to wait for years. But then if its so easy to become a parent shouldn't it be just as easy to annul it? Well, no it shouldn't be, that to me is just cruel. But even so it does happen that adoptions go wrong, that adoptive parents regret their decision or simply can't keep their bundle of joy.
Above picture of my lovely plant in my old place, unfortunately that plant didn't survive the heavy summer rain this summer...
If they would have been more prepared or had a larger social security net, they might never decided to annul the adoption or let alone initate an adoption process in the first place. Do you realize how many separations that child of yours would have to go through just because of you? Don't take to easy way out, just because things might get complicated. You're supposed to be the safe heaven for that child. Don't blame the child for its history or come with lame excuses. And please don't believe you can decide to return to sender. In adoptions or any family building their shouldn't be a reclamation period.
Yet I'm aware of the fact that sometimes, it might not be ideal for the child to stay with it's birth parents but I also assume that people generally are less openminded towards relinquishing a child born by their blood and maybe not so much when there are no blood relations.
Before commenting; be aware of the fact that this entry may be more or less biased , and you'll probably not like this post and may not even agree with me. But please leave religious things out of this and please don't try to promote, defend or speak in favour of adoptive parents. This post was written by an adoptee which means it is written from another perspective.
© Taste of Kimchi, Elle
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