There's so much talk about adoptees being in some kind of greatfulness and unequal relationship to their adoptive parents. But I actually believe that if it hadn't been for adoptees birth mum's intention to surrender her child or some random unfortunate event or both that child would never have been given up for adoption.
So who than would have to feel greatful? The supposed orphan and future adoptee or the adoptive parents?
It's a really big thing for a mother or any parents to willingly give up their child (or so I like to think).
Then it only seems logical for the adoptive parents to feel some kind of gratitude and greatfulness because if that woman hadn't made such a decision, that particular child and adoptee would never have been adopted and become a part of that particular family.
Yet I realize that one; being an adoptee means that it very likely that are a living contradiction, and if adoption is something that has to happen I think that it might become easier if the adoptee and the adoptive family is of the same ethnicity. Possibly it could also be so that adult adoptees might have a better understanding if they were to adopt themselves, although it might also make things more difficult if one parent is an adoptee.
I'm not trying to disrespect adoptive parents as much as I might intiatally have come across as in this entry, I'm trying to explain that adoption is a really complex thing and a great challenge and responsibility that's all.
© Taste of Kimchi, Elle
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